Jul 25, 2025

"How Can You Romanticize Your Life This Summer—Even in the Smallest Ways?"

 

Sometimes, we wait for big milestones or fancy trips to feel like life is special. But lately, I’ve learned something powerful: the magic is in the moment.

This summer, I’m making it my mission to romanticize my life. That doesn’t mean luxury or extravagance. It means slowing down. It means seeing my everyday routine through a softer, more intentional lens. It means giving myself permission to savor the little things — not just check them off a list.

Whether I’m lighting a candle during breakfast or taking myself on a solo date to the bookstore, these small shifts have brought me so much peace, presence, and pleasure. And I want to share a few of them with you.


1. Starting My Mornings Like I’m the Main Character

Instead of rushing into my day, I’m beginning each morning with a moment of stillness — prayer, soft music, and a warm cup of tea. I sit by the window or step outside if I can. Just five quiet minutes to remind myself: you are worthy of ease today.


2. Dressing for Myself, Not the Occasion

I’ve stopped saving my “nice things” for later. That pretty wrap dress? I’ll wear it to the farmer’s market. My favorite lipstick? I’ll put it on even if I’m just going to the store. I want to feel beautiful in my body now, not someday.


3. Planning Solo Dates That Feed My Soul

Every week, I take myself somewhere peaceful — a café, a botanical garden, or a quiet bookstore. No obligations. No guilt. Just me enjoying my own company. I bring my journal, order something nourishing, and give myself space to just be.


4. Setting the Mood at Home, Even for the Simple Things

I’ve started lighting a candle while I cook dinner. Playing soft jazz while I clean. Putting fresh flowers on my nightstand. These little rituals turn my space into a sanctuary — and they remind me that I deserve beauty in the everyday.


5. Ending the Day With Gratitude and Intention

At night, I write down one thing that made me smile and one thing I want to carry into tomorrow. Sometimes it’s as small as the way the light hit the trees or how good my lemon water tasted. Naming these moments helps me see my life through a softer lens.


Final Thoughts

Romanticizing your life isn’t about adding more to your plate — it’s about being present for what’s already there. It’s about choosing to create moments that feel sacred, soft, and sweet, even if only for a few minutes a day.

Because you deserve to be cared for.
You deserve to be delighted.
And most importantly — you deserve to feel like your life is a love story. Even in the quiet seasons.


How are you romanticizing your life this summer?
Tell me one small thing you’re doing to bring beauty and intention into your day. I’d love to share your responses in an upcoming blog post or email feature.

"How Can a Mid-Year Reset Help You Realign Your Goals This July?"

 

There’s something special about July.
We’re halfway through the year, the days are longer, and the world feels a little slower under the summer sun. It’s the perfect moment to pause — not with pressure, but with purpose.

This season, I’m leaning into the power of the mid-year reset. Not to beat myself up about what didn’t get done, but to reconnect with what still matters and create space for peace, progress, and joy.

If the first half of your year felt rushed, scattered, or off-track — you’re not alone. And the beautiful thing is, we get to begin again.


Why a Mid-Year Reset Matters

As women over 50, we carry a lot — family, career, wellness, community. And sometimes, we put our own dreams and needs on pause without even realizing it.

Taking a mid-year pause isn’t about perfection. It’s about permission.
Permission to check in.
Permission to pivot.
Permission to realign with what you truly want — mind, body, and soul.


How I’m Resetting in Four Key Areas

Here’s what I’m doing this July to gently realign and move into the rest of the year with more clarity and intention.


1. Self-Care Check-In

Am I resting well?
Am I saying yes to myself or just yes to everything else?

This month, I’m redefining self-care as sacred care. That means real rest, slower mornings, and releasing guilt when I need to do less in order to feel more like myself.

Prompt: What does real rest look like for you right now?


2. Health & Wellness Refocus

After the holidays and spring hustle, my body has been whispering to me. So I’ve started listening more closely. I’m revisiting my morning movement, staying consistent with my water and supplements, and eating meals that support my blood sugar and hormone balance — especially in this Texas heat.

Prompt: How can you honor your body in the season you’re in?


3. Style & Space Refresh

Sometimes a reset is as simple as switching up your wardrobe or clearing a corner of your home. I’m reorganizing my closet to reflect who I am now and letting go of anything that no longer fits my vibe or my life.

Prompt: What’s one space — in your closet or home — that needs a refresh to feel like peace again?


4. Goals That Feel Aligned, Not Just Ambitious

I used to pack my vision board with a long list of goals. These days, I want goals that feel meaningful — not just busy. So I’m choosing three simple words to guide the rest of my year. Words that keep me grounded, like “ease,” “wellness,” and “truth.”

Prompt: What do you want more of in the next six months — and how can you invite it in with intention?


Give Yourself Grace

This reset isn’t about catching up.
It’s about coming back to yourself.
Taking a breath. Taking inventory. And moving forward from a place of alignment and self-love.

You don’t have to overhaul your life. You just need a quiet moment and a willingness to reflect. That’s where the transformation begins.


Ready to Reset with Me?

Take your time. Light a candle. Brew some tea. And remember — your reset doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. It just has to feel right to you.

Jul 1, 2025

"How Can You Romanticize Your Life This Summer and Embrace a Soft Season for Your Soul?"

Sis, we’re not rushing through summer this year. We’re slowing down, breathing deeper, and choosing softness. As women over 50, we’ve earned the right to live beautifully and boldly — not just in the big moments, but in the small, everyday ones too.

This summer, I invite you to romanticize your life. That means creating rituals, spaces, and habits that make you feel loved, seen, and inspired — by your own self. You don’t need a fancy vacation or someone else’s permission. You just need intention, joy, and a little bit of sunlight.

Here are my favorite ways to romanticize your life this summer:

1. Begin Each Morning With Soul
Open the windows. Let the light in. Sip your coffee or tea slowly. Read a devotion or journal a few lines of gratitude. Don’t jump into the day — walk into it with grace.

2. Create a Signature Summer Ritual
Whether it's a morning stroll, a backyard breakfast, or an evening bath with candles, choose something that feels luxurious and make it a routine. Your rituals should feel like a love letter to your future self.

3. Dress for the Life You Want, Not Just the One You Have
Even if you're working from home or just running errands, put on something that makes you feel radiant. Think soft cotton dresses, gold jewelry, a swipe of your favorite gloss, and sandals that make you feel feminine and free.

4. Make Meals an Experience
Don’t just cook — plate your food like you’re dining at a boutique cafe. Use your best dishes. Eat outside. Light a candle at lunch. Nourish your body and spirit.

5. Curate a Soulful Playlist
Music changes everything. Fill your space with sounds that uplift you — gospel, old-school R&B, soulful jazz, or affirmations set to soft beats. Let the music carry you through the day.

6. Add Beauty to the Ordinary
Pick up fresh flowers from the farmer’s market. Diffuse your favorite scent. Upgrade your water glass to a pretty wine goblet. Life feels different when you treat yourself to simple elegance.

7. Take Yourself on a Solo Date
Go to a museum, explore a bookstore, or sit outside at your favorite coffee shop. Don’t wait for company. Be your own favorite person to spend time with.

8. Capture the Moments That Make You Feel Alive
Keep your phone nearby for the right reasons. Take photos of sunlight on your skin, your outfit of the day, a meal that made you proud, or a quote that spoke to you. Make a summer photo journal — not for likes, but for memories.

9. Write a Letter to the Woman You’re Becoming
Affirm her. Encourage her. Promise her that you’re going to keep showing up, loving her, and making space for her to rest and rise.

10. End Your Days with Intention
Put your phone down. Light a candle. Rub your favorite body oil into your skin. Sit quietly. Reflect. Pray. Breathe. Let your evenings be as soft as your mornings were strong.

This summer isn’t just about the sun and sandals. It’s about softness. Stillness. Soul. Romanticizing your life is about finding joy in the now — not waiting for some future moment to feel good about where you are.

So go ahead and live a little slower. Dress a little prettier. Speak a little sweeter to yourself. You’re not too old. It’s not too late. And you deserve a life that feels as good as it looks.

Which of these rituals are you ready to embrace this summer? I’d love to hear how you’re adding softness and beauty to your daily life. Let’s talk in the comments.

#SoftLifeSeason #Over50AndThriving #RomanticizeYourLife #MelaninWellnessQueen #TaylorMadeGuideLifestyle #GraceInEverySeason

"What Are 5 Uplifting Summer Reads by Black Women That Every Black Woman Should Have on Her List?"

Whether you’re curled up in the shade with a glass of iced tea or traveling light with a tote and a dream, these five books by Black women authors are exactly the kind of summer soul fuel we need.

These stories are layered with healing, joy, sisterhood, and truth. They speak to the richness of our experiences, the resilience in our journey, and the beauty of showing up fully as ourselves. Each book feels like sitting with a wise girlfriend — the kind who sees you, gets you, and reminds you that you are already enough.

Let’s dive into five powerful reads written by us, for us.

1. “Black Girls Must Die Exhausted” by Jayne Allen

This novel is tender, funny, and real. It follows Tabitha Walker, a thirty-something Black woman navigating life, love, and the ticking clock of fertility. What makes this story powerful is how Jayne Allen seamlessly blends personal dreams with cultural expectations and medical realities. It’s modern, heartfelt, and deeply relatable.

Why You'll Love It:
It explores what it means to carry so much while still trying to prioritize joy and self-worth.

2. “The Light We Carry” by Michelle Obama

This isn’t just a follow-up to “Becoming” — it’s a guide for navigating uncertain seasons with grace and grit. Michelle Obama shares honest reflections about self-doubt, connection, relationships, and identity. It feels more like a conversation than a speech, and it leaves you with tools to stay steady when life gets shaky.

Why You'll Love It:
It’s both practical and soul-nourishing, full of truth, encouragement, and lived wisdom.

3. “Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde

Sometimes we need more than comfort — we need to be stirred. Audre Lorde’s essays and speeches in this collection are as relevant today as ever. She speaks to race, gender, sexuality, and power with clarity and courage. This is not light reading, but it is life-giving and mind-opening.

Why You'll Love It:
It will challenge you to think deeper and speak louder — and remind you of your sacred worth in every space you enter.

4. “What Looks Like Bravery” by Laurel Braitman

This memoir by a mixed-race Black woman tells the story of resilience, loss, and the long road to self-compassion. Laurel writes with rawness and grace about growing up fast, chasing success, and eventually redefining what bravery truly looks like. It’s emotional, powerful, and deeply honest.

Why You'll Love It:
It helps you feel less alone if you’ve ever worn strength as armor and needed space to soften.

5. “You Are Your Best Thing” edited by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown

This anthology is a rich offering of vulnerability and voice. Black writers, thinkers, and creatives explore the intersection of shame, healing, and joy through personal essays. From everyday experiences to powerful revelations, the voices here are real, raw, and restorative.

Why You'll Love It:
You’ll see yourself reflected, encouraged, and empowered — in ways that stay with you long after you close the book.

Final Thoughts

These aren’t just books. They’re invitations. They remind us that we’re not alone in our questions, our strength, or our softness. They affirm our brilliance, our beauty, and our becoming — at every age, in every season.

So if you're looking to nourish your soul this summer, start here. Let these women’s words hold you, stretch you, and remind you of just how powerful your story really is.

Already read one of these?
Drop your review in the comments — or share what’s on your nightstand this summer. I’d love to keep the list going with your favorite reads.

"How Can You Prioritize Yourself This July and Embrace the Feeling of Summer Freedom?"

 


Girlfriend, this season is not just about cookouts and fireworks — it’s about your freedom.

Freedom to rest.
Freedom to shine.
Freedom to say “no” without guilt.

After years of pouring into everyone else, I’m declaring this summer the season of sacred self-prioritization. July is my month to breathe, reset, and choose me on purpose.

Here are 7 intentional ways I’m prioritizing myself this month — and I hope you’ll grab a few of these for yourself too.


1. Unplugging on Sundays

I’ve started turning my phone on do not disturb for a few sacred hours every Sunday. No scrolling, no notifications, no distractions. Just gospel music, lemon tea, and journaling by the window. It’s my mini Sabbath — and I’ve never felt more aligned.

Try This: Set a Sunday “soul care” alarm to remind you to log off and tune in.


2. Saying Yes to Solo Brunches

Yes, I love a good girl’s day — but I’ve also learned the power of taking myself out. Whether it’s a solo brunch at a cute café or sipping iced hibiscus tea on the patio, it’s my reminder that I am enough company.

Self-Love Tip: Dress up for you. Add some cute sunnies, swipe on a summer gloss, and go glow!


3. Booking That Massage Without Guilt

For years, I thought massages were a luxury. Now? They’re a necessity. Releasing tension and stress is one of the best gifts I can give myself. I block off the time like I would a doctor’s appointment — because my peace is just that important.

Bonus: Add peppermint oil or eucalyptus to your at-home bath for a spa vibe between sessions.


4. Moving My Body in Joyful Ways

No pressure workouts this summer. I’m dancing in the living room, stretching under the ceiling fan, and walking in the early morning before the Texas heat hits. Movement is my medicine, and I’m doing it with joy.

LTK Fave: I’m loving my lightweight walking shoes and waist-friendly leggings from [insert LTK brand here].


5. Saying “No” Without Explaining

This July, I’m giving myself permission to say “no” with softness and strength. No over-explaining. No guilt. Just boundaries that protect my time, my peace, and my purpose.

Remember: “No” is a full sentence, sis.


6. Reading for Pleasure, Not Pressure

Instead of forcing myself through “should-read” books, I’m diving into light, soulful, Black-authored reads that feel like warm hugs. Fiction, affirmations, memoirs — anything that nurtures my spirit.

Trina’s Pick: “Black Girls Must Die Exhausted” by Jayne Allen is a summer fave. So real, so healing.


7. Waking Up Slowly and With Intention

Gone are the days of rushing through the morning. I now take 15 minutes before anything else to breathe, stretch, and sip my lemon water. This simple practice sets the tone for the whole day.

Morning Vibe Essentials: Soft robe, silk eye mask, and a gratitude journal — all linked on my LTK page.


Sis, This Summer is Yours

You don’t need permission to prioritize yourself — you are the permission.
You deserve joy.
You deserve rest.
You deserve your own love, every single day.


What’s one way you're choosing you this July?

Comment below and let’s celebrate each other’s freedom! Use the hashtag #SummerFreedomWithTrina if you share on Instagram — I’ll be cheering you on!